For anyone struggling with emotional triggers, relationship drama, or feeling unsafe in their own skin...
Hot New Book From James M. Reveals How To...
Transform Emotional Triggers Into Tools For Safety
& Create Drama-Free Relationships That Last!
"As someone who worked in high-stress environments for years, I thought being triggered was just part of life. James's method showed me how to not only process triggers but actually use them to create more success and fulfillment in my work and relationships."
– Scott M.
In this book, I share how to turn your biggest emotional triggers into your most powerful guides for healing...
In the next few moments, you'll learn how a former trauma survivor turned his "emotional landmines" into powerful tools for transformation.
And how you can use this Sustainable Safety Solution to create fulfilling relationships and lasting inner peace.
You'll love this book if you meet any of the following:
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âś… You're done with relationship drama and emotional chaos
âś… You've tried meditation apps but can't find lasting peace
âś… You're tired of walking on eggshells in relationships
âś… You've tried therapy but still get triggered regularly
âś… You're sensitive to other people's energy and emotions
✅ ​You're in 12 Step and know there is so much more for your life and your recovery
✅ ​​You're done with relationship drama and emotional chaos
Creating genuine safety and security is frustrating. It's where most trauma survivors get stuck because they spend a lot of your time:
- Feeling unsafe no matter what you try
- Exhausted from people-pleasing and peacekeeping
- Second-guessing yourself in relationships
- Trying to avoid conflict but somehow attracting more drama
- Wrestling with emotional triggers that seem to come from nowhere
About James M.
I'm a father, loving partner, entrepreneur, dog lover, and musician, who loves adventure and enjoying the abundant life I've created for myself. In 2004, I founded Violence Anonymous, a recovery program for people who use conflict, drama and control to meet their needs at the expense of others.
But I founded the School for Emotional Wellbeing to help people inside and out of 12 Step programs. Our mission is to empower people to overcome the damage of their past, enjoy a lifetime of happiness and prosperity, and help others do the same.
"I spent years in therapy trying to understand my triggers, but nothing changed until I learned James's framework. Now I finally feel safe in my own skin and my relationships have completely transformed."
- Gloria R.​
Ask me how I know...
It's not WHAT we do. It's the WAY we do it.
I spent the last 30 years healing & helping others heal.
The Sustainable Safety Solution you'll get in this book changed the WAY I do everything.
When you finished reading it, you'll be able to:
👉 Transform triggers into precise healing guides in 20 minutes or less.
👉 Create unshakeable safety that comes from within, eliminating codependent tendencies.
👉 Build drama-free relationships based on authentic connection that make living life more enjoyable.
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​Your relationships will be more fulfilling, peaceful and REAL!
Once you implement the Sustainable Safety Solution, you can wave goodbye to all of the stuff that doesn't work, too.
❌ No more walking on eggshells...
❌ No more emotional hijacking...
❌ No more drama triangle dynamics...
❌ No more fake coping mechanisms...
❌ No more feeling unsafe in your own skin...
The Sustainable Safety Solution taught in this book is ALL you need to have genuine safety and fulfilling relationships right now.
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Ready to Transform Your Triggers into Tools for Unshakeable Safety?
"When Will You Finally Feel Safe?"
The Solution Is Hiding in Plain Sight...
If you're like most people dealing with past trauma or difficult relationships...
You've probably tried everything from therapy to self-help books to meditation apps.
But here's what nobody tells you...
Those emotional triggers that seem like your biggest problem, They're actually the doorway to your deepest healing.
I know because I've been there.
After multiple suicide attempts and 30 years helping thousands break free from trauma and drama, I discovered something shocking...
Your triggers aren't your enemy - they're your roadmap to freedom.
This isn't for everyone.
If you're looking for a quick fix or magic bullet, this isn't it.
But if you're ready to transform your triggers into tools for creating authentic safety and connection, keep reading...
What I'm about to share completely transforms how you view emotional triggers and trauma.
Instead of seeing them as problems to fix, you'll discover how to use them as precise guides to create the secure, fulfilling life you've always wanted.
In 1994, I hit rock bottom.
Despite looking successful on the outside, I was drowning in childhood trauma.
It manifested as addictions, relationship chaos, and a deep sense of feeling unsafe in my own skin.
That's when I discovered something that would change everything.
Let me give you some context first...
Most trauma and relationship advice gets it completely backward.
They tell you to avoid triggers, manage them, or push through them.
But that's like putting a bandaid on a broken bone.
Through working with thousands of people just like you...
I've discovered that trying to "cope with" or "manage" triggers actually keeps you stuck on the drama triangle.
Life becomes an exhausting cycle of victim, persecutor, and rescuer roles that drain your energy and destroy your relationships.
But there's a revolutionary new approach that turns everything you know about triggers upside down.
What if your emotional triggers weren't the enemy?
Inside "Safe In Your Own Skin," available on this page for just $5, I show you:
- How to Process Triggers Completely (not just cope with them)
- How to Create Authentic Safety (that doesn't depend on others)
- How to Build Drama-Free Relationships (that actually last)
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You'll Go Through Three Sections
To Create Your Sustainable Safety Solution!
 Section 1
Scary Ways We Think
Ever wonder why some people seem to glide through life drama-free while you keep getting blindsided by triggers?
In Section 1, you'll discover the hidden patterns keeping you stuck - and why they're not your fault.
Using comprehensive Thinking Assessments, you'll finally understand exactly why you get triggered and how to spot drama before it starts.
You'll know why even the most "together" people sometimes feel like they're walking on eggshells, and how to break free from these invisible chains once and for all.
- ​How to spot drama triangle dynamics before they escalate
- The comprehensive assessment that reveals your exact trigger patterns
- Why your emotional triggers are actually precision healing guides
- The hidden patterns keeping you stuck in the drama triangle
Section 2
Primary Concepts for Sustainable Safety
Section 2 is where everything changes.
Instead of endless coping mechanisms that leave you exhausted, you'll discover the foundational tools that create unshakeable safety from within.
Finally express your needs without guilt, set boundaries that actually stick, and navigate relationships with confidence.
"James Daily 7" practices will transform your emotional landscape so profoundly that others will notice the difference (and want to know your secret).
These tools work even if traditional approaches haven't helped.
- Daily practices that build emotional stability
- The secret to setting boundaries that actually work
- How to identify and express needs without shame
- The complete toolkit for creating unshakeable safety
Section 3
The Sustainable Safety Solution
Theory becomes transformation in Section 3.
My revolutionary 6-part framework takes everything you've learned and turns it into a practical system for creating lasting change.
No more band-aid solutions or temporary fixes.
You'll catch triggers before they hijack you, process them completely (in 20 minutes or less), and turn them into tools for growth.
By the time you finish this section, you'll have something better than coping skills...
You'll have genuine freedom from the drama triangle and a proven path to lasting peace.
- ​Advanced techniques for handling complex situations
- Real-world examples showing exactly how to apply these principles
- Step-by-step processes for neutralizing trauma
- The proven 6-part framework for transforming triggers
Our 30-Day Money Back Guarantee
Here's my promise to you:
The "Safe In Your Own Skin" Book will show you everything that I've talked about on this page, and much more.
But one of two things will happen:
đź‘Ť You'll either see tremendous value and are happy to have invested $5 to learn this life-changing framework.
đź‘Ž Or you don't, you'll feel you wasted your time and want your $5 back.
The second option hasn't happened (yet.)
But if it does, just email my team at support@schoolforemotionalwellbeing.com, and they'll send you a full refund for your book purchase.
I don't care what the reason is. If you're not happy, then neither am I, and your $5 will be sent back to you right away, and you keep the book.
Simple as that. This is a one-year money-back guarantee.
Here's Just Some Of What
You'll Find Inside Your Copy Of This Extraordinary New Book:
- The hidden reason your relationships keep following the same painful pattern
- Model Marcus’ example and turn parent-child conflict into a deep connection
- 25 signs you're stuck in the Drama Triangle (and the simple 'pattern interrupt' that sets you free)
- The "Sustainable Safety Solution" that transforms triggers from emotional landmines into precise healing guides
- How to break free from the Drama Triangle, even if you've been stuck there your whole life
- The 6-step process to create authentic safety that doesn't depend on anyone else
- The secret to processing trauma without reliving it (this method even processes decades-old wounds)
- This counterintuitive approach creates more connection than all your compromising
- The surprising way Chris turned his "freeze response" into leadership power
- The truth about "fight, flight, or freeze" that nobody talks about - and how it changes everything
- What never to say to yourself during an emotional trigger (this common phrase makes everything worse)
- The "Sustainable Safety Solution" that turned a parent-teen conflict into deep connection
- The amazing "Handle Finder" technique that transforms triggers into transformation tools
- When it's okay to disengage from conflict (without guilt or shame)
- Why traditional "trigger management" fails (and the sustainable alternative that works)
- How Gloria broke free from her mother's addiction patterns (without years of therapy)
- The absolute worst thing to do when you trigger (and what to do instead for instant relief)
- How to eliminate relationship drama without compromising your needs or boundaries
- Where to find deep emotional safety (hint: it's not where most experts tell you to look)
- The Marsha breakthrough that turned criticism into confidence
- The sneaky way childhood patterns sabotage your adult relationships (and the process to break free)
- If you've tried therapy, meditation, 12 Steps, and self-help books but still get triggered, the SSS in this book is the missing piece.
- Why you're not really "oversensitive" - and how to use your emotional sensitivity as a superpower
- How Tia transformed money conversations from triggers to triumph
- How to turn your biggest trigger into your most powerful ally, even if you've struggled with it for decades
- The single most destructive myth about trauma that keeps you stuck in the drama triangle (and what to do instead)
- Why your emotional triggers are actually precision GPS coordinates showing you exactly where healing needs to happen
- How to handle triggered people without getting triggered yourself
- The hidden reason you can't "just get over it" (and the solution that finally sets you free)
- Why your best coping mechanisms are secretly hurting you (and what to do instead)
- The truth about "relationship patterns" that keeps you stuck (and how to finally break free)
- How to break free from family drama without cutting people off
- What to do when someone you love keeps triggering (without compromising your boundaries)
- The exact moment your trigger becomes a teacher (and how to spot it every time)
- Why "processing" isn't enough - discover the 6-part framework that creates lasting change
- The "Daily 7" toolkit to create unshakeable emotional stability
- The "NVC Technique" that turns conflict into connection even when you’re dealing with difficult people
- "Tapping Points" that instantly decrease emotional intensity
- The "TAT Method" that unlocks emotional freedom in just 20 minutes
- How to use "Thought Rhyming" to transform your deepest wounds into wisdom
- Why affirmations don't work for trauma (and what does)
- The "Niagara Falls Method" for catching strong emotions before they overwhelm you
- The shocking truth about why you keep attracting the same painful situations
- 6 ways to turn relationship conflict into deeper connection
- The "Handle Finder" secret that top trauma therapists don't want you to know
- CAUTION: The invisible "Low-Level Triggers" that secretly sabotage your relationships
- Why traditional boundary-setting backfires (and what you should do instead)
- The "Compassionate Witness" technique that creates instant emotional relief
- If you've been told you're "too sensitive," this discovery will transform your life...
- The simple truth about "Chronic Trauma" that changes everything
- Why some people never feel safe (no matter how much personal work they do) and the breakthrough solution
- How Bethany transformed workplace harassment into boundary mastery
- "Reframing Technique" that neutralizes trauma in under 20 minutes instead of weeks of therapy
To sum it up, using the Sustainable Safety Solution taught in this book, you can:
- Transform triggers from emotional landmines into powerful tools for growth
- Create unshakeable safety that comes from within (instead of depending on others)
- Break free from the Drama Triangle permanently
- Build fulfilling relationships based on authentic connection rather than fear
- Navigate difficult conversations with confidence and clarity
- Set firm boundaries with love
Here's A Recap Of EVERYTHING You're Getting Today:
- Safe in Your Own Skin – The ebook shares how to transform emotional triggers into tools for safety & create drama-free relationships that last. (174-page ebook in two formats - pdf and epub). (Value $20)​
- ​FREE BONUS #1: Safety Plan Database – Ten custom Safety Plans that prepare you for everyday challenges so you can remain free from the Drama Triangle (instead of the typical coping strategies) (Value $95)​
- ​FREE BONUS #2: James Daily 7 – Guarantee you feel safe, secure, and happier in your relationships by following a safety plan of your own design. Choose from my list of 20 suggested tools. (Value $95)​
- ​FREE BONUS #3: Self EDMR Worksheet – My go-to practice to balance my brain, allowing me to neutralize a trauma without having to re-experience it. Complete the worksheet and release the trauma. (Value $15)​
- ​FREE BONUS #4: Reframing Worksheet – Rather than berate or criticize yourself, use this worksheet to “flip the script” on what's causing pain. These four steps help you achieve long-lasting relief instead. (Value $15)
- FREE BONUS #5: "Master" List of Handles – If you need help finding your Handles, use the list of Handles to Process that people I’ve coached used to find hidden Trauma and Limiting Beliefs. (Value $15)
Value: $255
Today's Price: $5
About James M.
Hi, I'm James M. I'm a father, a loving partner, entrepreneur, dog lover, musician, who loves adventure, being healthy and enjoying the abundant life that I've created for myself, my family and my friends. But it wasn't always that way...
I found 12 Step recovery in 1994 at the age of 26 when I admitted my powerlessness over drugs and alcohol.
Since then I have worked the 12 Steps 26 times in 9 programs over 30 years. I've attended well over 10,000 12 Step meetings and continue to make recovery my number one priority. One day at a time, I continue to overcome addictions to alcohol, drugs, money, sex, relationships and violence thanks to daily trauma work in these 12 Step programs: AA, VA, DA, UA, Alanon, SLAA, SAA, SRA, and RCA.
In 2004 I founded Violence Anonymous, a recovery program for people who use conflict, drama and control to meet their needs at the expense of others and have and helped thousands of people to date. My work in Violence Anonymous and over 30 years of personal trauma therapy and recovery has made me an expert in the field of trauma, its effects on humanity and the solution to overcoming it.
I founded the School for Emotional Wellbeing to help people inside and out of 12 Step programs. You don't have to be an addict to benefit from all of my hard work and experience. You just have to be willing to be a better version of yourself tomorrow than you are today.
My mission is to empower people to overcome the damage of their past, enjoy a lifetime of happiness and prosperity, and help others do the same.
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