The Safe in Your Own Skin Maintenance Program
Practice the Safe in Your Own Skin Method Daily Until It Becomes Second Nature — Without Falling Back Into Old Patterns
For graduates of our intermediate programs who are ready to solidify their healing, build consistency, and never walk this path alone.
"As someone who worked in high-stress environments for years, I thought being triggered was just part of life. James's method showed me how to not only process triggers but actually use them to create more success and fulfillment in my work and relationships."
– Scott M.
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Summary
Here’s What We’re Doing…
You’ll join me live every month in a private community of SYOS graduates who are serious about locking in their growth and breaking free from trauma-based behavior...
Not just in theory, but in real life.
You’ve already seen how powerful the Sustainable Safety Solution is. But without structure and support, it’s easy to slip.
Your triggers sneak in. Your inner critic gets loud. And before you know it, the Drama Triangle is doing donuts in your living room again.
What you really want is to make peace your default setting.
You want to process triggers in real-time, build a reliable rhythm, and live from emotional safety even when life isn’t playing fair.
"I spent years in therapy trying to understand my triggers, but nothing changed until I learned James's framework. Now I finally feel safe in my own skin and my relationships have completely transformed."
- Gloria R.
About James M.
I'm a father, loving partner, entrepreneur, dog lover, and musician, who loves adventure and enjoying the abundant life I've created for myself. In 2004, I founded Violence Anonymous, a recovery program for people who use conflict, drama and control to meet their needs at the expense of others.
But I founded the School for Emotional Wellbeing to help people inside and out of 12 Step programs. Our mission is to empower people to overcome the damage of their past, enjoy a lifetime of happiness and prosperity, and help others do the same.
Monthly Cadence
Here’s how we help you stay grounded, consistent, and off the Drama Triangle all month long:
✅ Week 1 – Open Mic (1.5 hours)
Bring your questions, triggers, and emotional roadblocks. This is your safe space to speak freely and get real-time support.
We’ll help you:
- Dissect the trigger
- Find the root pattern
- Choose the best tool in the moment
You’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and with a plan of action.
✅ Week 2 – Office Hours (1 hour)
An open space to check in, ask questions, and get support with whatever’s showing up that week. Maybe it’s a pattern you’re just now noticing. Maybe you’re not triggered, but you’re drifting. This call keeps you aligned.
We’ll help you de-escalate before it escalates.
✅ Week 3 – 12 Step Work + SYOS Integration (1.5 hours)
James walks you through a different Step each month, showing you how to integrate SYOS tools to deepen your recovery — no matter what 12 Step program you're in.
You’ll see how SYOS helps you:
- Take a deeper 4th Step
- Make truer amends
- Build a stronger spiritual foundation
- Own your triggers without shame
✅ Week 4 – Office Hours (1 hour)
One more check-in before the month wraps. Use it to process, plan, or get unstuck. Sometimes the real magic is just having somewhere to go before things spiral.
This is your monthly reset button.
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Here’s What You’re Getting:
The Safe in Your Own Skin Maintenance Program is your structured, supportive path to locking in your transformation.
✅ 2 Monthly “Office Hours” Calls to keep you accountable and aligned
✅ 1 Monthly “Open Mic” Trigger Support Session to help you process what’s actually happening in your life
✅ 1 Monthly “12 Step Integration” Session to deepen your understanding of both SYOS and recovery
✅ Private Community of SYOS Alumni to walk with you — no more doing this work alone
✅ Real-time access to James M., the creator of the method
✅ A place to ask for help, share your wins, and stay emotionally sober
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This Is How Your Tomorrow Will Look:
You’ll stop spinning in your head when you're triggered — and start processing in minutes.
You’ll show up differently in your relationships — more calm, less chaos.
You’ll stop feeling behind and finally build the daily rhythm your nervous system craves.
You’ll know exactly which tool to use, and when.
You’ll experience consistent wins in your recovery, relationships, and self-respect.
This Is Perfect For You If…
- You’re in conflict at home or work — and you need help finding the right Handle fast, not weeks later in hindsight.
- You’re in a leadership role — and you’re tired of suppressing your triggers or reacting in ways that backfire. You want sustainable, mutually beneficial solutions that work in real life.
- You’re in 12 Step recovery — but you’re treading water. You want more connection, clarity, and depth in your step work.
- You know what to do, but you struggle to do it daily — and you’re ready to build muscle memory, not just wait for the next trigger to derail you.
- You’ve done the intensive. You believe in the work. Now you want to embody it — for life.
Investment: $999/month
No refunds. No fluff. Just the real work that builds emotional safety into your bones.
Here's Just Some Of What
You'll Find Inside Your Copy Of This Extraordinary New Book:
- The hidden reason your relationships keep following the same painful pattern
- Model Marcus’ example and turn parent-child conflict into a deep connection
- 25 signs you're stuck in the Drama Triangle (and the simple 'pattern interrupt' that sets you free)
- The "Sustainable Safety Solution" that transforms triggers from emotional landmines into precise healing guides
- How to break free from the Drama Triangle, even if you've been stuck there your whole life
- The 6-step process to create authentic safety that doesn't depend on anyone else
- The secret to processing trauma without reliving it (this method even processes decades-old wounds)
- This counterintuitive approach creates more connection than all your compromising
- The surprising way Chris turned his "freeze response" into leadership power
- The truth about "fight, flight, or freeze" that nobody talks about - and how it changes everything
- What never to say to yourself during an emotional trigger (this common phrase makes everything worse)
- The "Sustainable Safety Solution" that turned a parent-teen conflict into deep connection
- The amazing "Handle Finder" technique that transforms triggers into transformation tools
- When it's okay to disengage from conflict (without guilt or shame)
- Why traditional "trigger management" fails (and the sustainable alternative that works)
- How Gloria broke free from her mother's addiction patterns (without years of therapy)
- The absolute worst thing to do when you trigger (and what to do instead for instant relief)
- How to eliminate relationship drama without compromising your needs or boundaries
- Where to find deep emotional safety (hint: it's not where most experts tell you to look)
- The Marsha breakthrough that turned criticism into confidence
- The sneaky way childhood patterns sabotage your adult relationships (and the process to break free)
- If you've tried therapy, meditation, 12 Steps, and self-help books but still get triggered, the SSS in this book is the missing piece.
- Why you're not really "oversensitive" - and how to use your emotional sensitivity as a superpower
- How Tia transformed money conversations from triggers to triumph
- How to turn your biggest trigger into your most powerful ally, even if you've struggled with it for decades
- The single most destructive myth about trauma that keeps you stuck in the drama triangle (and what to do instead)
- Why your emotional triggers are actually precision GPS coordinates showing you exactly where healing needs to happen
- How to handle triggered people without getting triggered yourself
- The hidden reason you can't "just get over it" (and the solution that finally sets you free)
- Why your best coping mechanisms are secretly hurting you (and what to do instead)
- The truth about "relationship patterns" that keeps you stuck (and how to finally break free)
- How to break free from family drama without cutting people off
- What to do when someone you love keeps triggering (without compromising your boundaries)
- The exact moment your trigger becomes a teacher (and how to spot it every time)
- Why "processing" isn't enough - discover the 6-part framework that creates lasting change
- The "Daily 7" toolkit to create unshakeable emotional stability
- The "NVC Technique" that turns conflict into connection even when you’re dealing with difficult people
- "Tapping Points" that instantly decrease emotional intensity
- The "TAT Method" that unlocks emotional freedom in just 20 minutes
- How to use "Thought Rhyming" to transform your deepest wounds into wisdom
- Why affirmations don't work for trauma (and what does)
- The "Niagara Falls Method" for catching strong emotions before they overwhelm you
- The shocking truth about why you keep attracting the same painful situations
- 6 ways to turn relationship conflict into deeper connection
- The "Handle Finder" secret that top trauma therapists don't want you to know
- CAUTION: The invisible "Low-Level Triggers" that secretly sabotage your relationships
- Why traditional boundary-setting backfires (and what you should do instead)
- The "Compassionate Witness" technique that creates instant emotional relief
- If you've been told you're "too sensitive," this discovery will transform your life...
- The simple truth about "Chronic Trauma" that changes everything
- Why some people never feel safe (no matter how much personal work they do) and the breakthrough solution
- How Bethany transformed workplace harassment into boundary mastery
- "Reframing Technique" that neutralizes trauma in under 20 minutes instead of weeks of therapy
Here Are Your Options:
Let’s keep it real. You’ve got two choices:
- Option A: Do nothing. Try to white-knuckle your way through the next trigger, hoping you remember what to do before the spiral.
- Option B: Invest $999/month and lock in your transformation with support, structure, and safety.
Today's Price: $999
About James M.
Hi, I'm James M. I'm a father, a loving partner, entrepreneur, dog lover, musician, who loves adventure, being healthy and enjoying the abundant life that I've created for myself, my family and my friends. But it wasn't always that way...
I found 12 Step recovery in 1994 at the age of 26 when I admitted my powerlessness over drugs and alcohol.
Since then I have worked the 12 Steps 26 times in 9 programs over 30 years. I've attended well over 10,000 12 Step meetings and continue to make recovery my number one priority. One day at a time, I continue to overcome addictions to alcohol, drugs, money, sex, relationships and violence thanks to daily trauma work in these 12 Step programs: AA, VA, DA, UA, Alanon, SLAA, SAA, SRA, and RCA.
In 2004 I founded Violence Anonymous, a recovery program for people who use conflict, drama and control to meet their needs at the expense of others and have and helped thousands of people to date. My work in Violence Anonymous and over 30 years of personal trauma therapy and recovery has made me an expert in the field of trauma, its effects on humanity and the solution to overcoming it.
I founded the School for Emotional Wellbeing to help people inside and out of 12 Step programs. You don't have to be an addict to benefit from all of my hard work and experience. You just have to be willing to be a better version of yourself tomorrow than you are today.
My mission is to empower people to overcome the damage of their past, enjoy a lifetime of happiness and prosperity, and help others do the same.
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