Spinning your wheels and don't know why?
LEVEL UP
Romantically,
Financially,
in your Relationships,
and at Work
- Do you have conflict in your relationships that keeps you from being happy?
- Do you want to thrive at work, at home and in love?
- Do you want more out of your relationships?
- Have you experienced trauma?
- Have you tried a bunch of things that haven't worked?
Don't Worry... Since 2004 I've helped 1000s of people like you, all over the world, overcome their limiting beliefs, neutralize trauma and free themselves from the shackles that are holding them back.
- I specialize in helping you eliminate the drama and conflict in your life.
- And... have the right tool kit to live your best life. Romantically, Financially and in your Important Relationships.
Are you stuck?
stop getting distracted by Past Trauma and reach your goals
Living on the Drama Triangle can drain your energy. It makes meeting your needs to feel significant, special, safe, secure, loved and connected way too hard. I'll show you how to stop the drama in your own mind and build healthy boundaries to deal with other people's issues while creating peace and happiness in your relationships.
- Handle Triggers in a healthy way
- Learn De-Escalation Techniques to calm yourself when stressed
- Understand how to quickly Neutralize Trauma
- Learn to stand up for yourself without causing more drama
- Get your needs met without rescuing, blaming, shaming or controlling others
Confused about how to
connect with love?
Does a disagreement with someone you love throw you into a tailspin for days or even weeks? Would you love to be heard and be seen in important relationships? Want to know how to stop upsetting people you care about? Do you want to learn how to meet your needs and the help others meet theirs at the same time?
I'll show you how to:
- Identify what's going wrong and how to fix it.
- Create the safety you need in intimate relationships.
- Understand the gift of triggers and how they can show you where your wounds are so you don't have to act them out with your partner.
- Neutralize Trauma and stay off of the Drama Triangle.
- Spend more time creating meaningful connection with the people you love.
Uncertain how to
Soar above work conflict?
You don't have to be so stressed about the people at work. Learn practical strategies to deal with difficult people without reliving old wounds. Turn difficulty into opportunities for abundance and prosperity.
- Learn how to stop the thought loops that keep you distracted
- Get tactics to deal with bullies and keep your power
- Reduce your stress levels by healing your trauma
- Stop repeating old patterns and learn to thrive
- Create opportunities instead of stress and anxiety
Testimonials
What My Clients Are Saying!
Michael - Isreal
Thank you for continuing to carry the torch. I've been working with you 1 year this month. Understanding the drama triangle and learning about verbal and covert violence has changed my view of myself and my understanding of my place in the world. I know longer aspire to be the person in charge of it 😂, Baruch Hashem 🙏. A big thank you for bringing the Peace of Eden back to Earth, one day at a time. InLove ❤️
Lynn - California
My group has people from Scotland, UK, Portugal and India who are dealing with the same issues I am. It's so reassuring to know I'm not alone. Thank you James.
Nick - UK
This has been the most incredible journey for me. I'm so grateful. I dread to think where I would be without James' help. Probably prison again. Not even joking. The pain I've endured and learned to process this year has led to me being able to maintain my emotional sobriety under fire and pressure. It's nothing short of a miracle.
Kay - Florida
Congrats on 30 years sober, James! I highly respect your commitment to making yourself better. I appreciate having you as a mentor. You call out greatness within me and empower me to be the best version of myself! Your leadership is truly a special thing!
Eleni - Greece
I'm from a small town in Greece. What I've learned has transformed my life. I'm very grateful to James for his coaching and guidence.
Lynn - Texas
As a parent, I have the utmost praise and respect for what James offers. He has provided so much more than "coaching." This is a launchpad. The mentorship, collaborative spirit, cool curriculum and James' all-in supportive spirit helped unleash my son's passion.
I'm very grateful that my son rediscovered his happy spirit. Thank you James!
You Will Benefit from working with James if...
You Want More out of Your Relationships
- Set healthy boundaries with ease
- Communicate you feelings and needs in a way that brings people closer instead of pushing them away
- Stop yourself from acting in a way that you regret
- Learn to practice better self control of your words and actions
- Learn a consistent daily practice that will change your life for the better
You Want More out of Your Work Life
- Find your passion
- Stop sabotaging yourself
- Reduce and better manage work stress
- Say no in a way that inspires people instead of puts them off
- Stop pretending to be someone you are not to earn money
You need to improve your Addiction Recovery
- Are you in recovery, and still caught up in conflict and drama?
- Can't stop acting out?
- Have you gained a lot from your recovery, but you know there's more for you?
- Does your 12 Step program need a boost so you can level up?
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know that I need trauma coaching?
Recognizing the need for coaching to recover from trauma involves understanding the impact the trauma has on your daily life, emotions, and overall well-being. Here are some signs that you might benefit from trauma recovery coaching:
1. Persistent Emotional Distress
2. Struggling with Daily Tasks
3. Flashbacks and Intrusive Thoughts
4. Difficulty Controlling Thoughts
5. Increased Irritability
6. Isolation
7. Physical Symptoms (headaches, fatigue, or digestive issues)
8. Sleep Disturbances
9. Struggling with Relationships
10. Trust Issues
11. Conflicts triggered by the trauma
12. Negative Self-Perception
13. Low Self-Esteem (feelings of worthlessness, guilt, or shame)
14. Self-Blame
15. Feeling Stuck
16. Desire for Healing
17. Needing Support
If you resonate with several of these signs, trauma recovery coaching or therapy could provide a supportive environment to help you navigate the healing process.
How do I know I'm ready to work with James?
You've hit bottom and know you need to change to have the life of your dreams. You have the humility to learn and grow. You are willing to think differently. You are willing to do the work.
What is the minimum amount of time?
Courses, workshops, and bootcamps all have their own timeline. you can find that information in the individual program. One-on-One Coaching minimum commitment is 3 months. Based on my experience people turn a corner at the 90 day mark and start really getting traction if they put in the work between our sessions. Anything under 90 days is a waste of your time and investment since the healthy habits that I am helping you form won't have time to take hold.
What's the difference between the course programs and the one-on-one coaching?
Courses, workshops, and bootcamps are designed to help lots of people heal and prosper together. Group settings allow you to develop a stronger support network to help you through the tough times. They also allow you to learn from other people's challenges and victories at a reduced cost, because you are sharing the James' time with other people.
One-on-One Coaching with me is YOUR time. The entire session is focused on your needs and how I can help you heal and grow.
What's the difference between James' method and traditional therapy?
I combine the wisdom of 12 Steps with Trauma Recovery to improve your thinking, actions, behavior and spiritual condition. I follow a clear and easy framework for change so you know where you are and where you are going. I will teach you how to overcome challenges in 30 minutes that used to take you 3 weeks, by showing you how to expose the roots of your wounds and reprogram your thinking without having to relive the pain.
How do I access my courses?
It's super easy. Once you've purchased a course you will be sent instructions on how to login to your Member Account.
How can I remain anonymous in the groups?
There are easy instructions on how to maintain your anonymity for each group. You are welcome to connect in a way that feels safe for you.
Can I work the 12 Steps with James?
Absolutely!! I've worked the Twelve Steps 26 times in 9 different programs in my 30+ years of recovery. Even if you have a good sponsor, I can help you level up your recovery. If you don't have a solid sponsor or you've been in recovery but haven't worked the steps, it will set you on an entirely different path that will make your life happier and healthier.
Who is James?
Hi, I'm James M. I'm a father, a loving partner, entrepreneur, dog lover, musician, who loves adventure, being healthy and enjoying the abundant life that I've created for myself, my family and my friends. But it wasn't always that way...
I found 12 Step recovery in 1994 at the age of 26 when I admitted my powerlessness over drugs and alcohol.
Since then I have worked the 12 Steps 26 times in 9 programs over 30 years. I've attended well over 10,000 12 Step meetings and continue to make recovery my number one priority. One day at a time, I continue to overcome addictions to alcohol, drugs, money, sex, relationships and violence thanks to daily trauma work in these 12 Step programs: AA, VA, DA, UA, Alanon, SLAA, SAA, SRA, and RCA.
In 2004 I founded Violence Anonymous, a recovery program for people who use conflict, drama and control to meet their needs at the expense of others and have helped thousands of people to date. My work in Violence Anonymous and over 30 years of personal trauma therapy and recovery has made me an expert in the field of trauma, its effects on humanity and the solution to overcoming it.
I founded the School for Emotional Wellbeing to help people inside and out of 12 Step programs. You don't have to be an addict to benefit from all of my hard work and experience. You just have to be willing to be a better version of yourself tomorrow than you are today.
My mission: I empower people to transform their lives by neutralizing past trauma, build a new blueprint for the life of their dreams, and help others do the same.
Ready to Make a Change? Share Your Details Below…
Yes, I'm ready to transform my life experience and claim my spot in the Safe In Your Own Skin Program, where conquering anxiety, frustration and fear is just the beginning.
What do you aim to achieve by joining the Safe In Your Own Skin program?
Are you committed to stepping off the Drama Triangle and embracing a life of empowerment?
Identify your number one obstacle that's keeping you from feeling confident, calm, poised, and at peace?
What's driving you to seek change and work with James to transform your life?
Do you trust that James and our team can guide you to a breakthrough?
We value community, contribution, and cooperation. Tell us, what unique strengths you bring to the Safe In Your Own Skin community?
If you’ve taken steps towards personal growth before, we'd love to know. - Please share some links to programs or coaching you've tried.
This journey requires a whole-hearted investment of time and resources. How prepared are you to engage fully to transform your life?
What's your current financial situation?
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